Should you create an online will or use an attorney?
Take the Online Will vs. Attorney Quiz!
Back to Blog

How to talk to your parent about moving into assisted living

It can be a difficult and emotional decision to talk to your parent about moving them into an assisted living facility. However, there are ways to approach this conversation that can make it easier for both you and them. In this post, we will provide you with some advice on how to start this conversation and things to consider when making this decision.

Firstly, it's important to start the conversation with empathy and understanding. Your parent may be feeling scared, vulnerable, or even angry at the thought of moving out of their home. Try to put yourself in their shoes and understand that this is a big change for them. Starting the conversation with phrases like, "I know this is a difficult decision, but I'm concerned about your safety and well-being," can help to show that you care and are not just trying to take away their independence.

Next, it's important to focus on the benefits of moving into an assisted living facility. For example, you can talk about how an assisted living facility can provide 24-hour support and care, as well as opportunities for socialization and activities that can improve your parent's quality of life. You can also discuss how an assisted living facility can help your parent maintain their independence, while also providing the necessary support they need.

Another important aspect to consider is the cost of assisted living facilities. Make sure to research different facilities and understand the costs associated with each one. Some facilities may offer financial assistance or have programs that can help to reduce the cost. It's important to have an open and honest conversation about the cost and how it will be paid for. This can help to alleviate some of the stress associated with this decision.

As obvious as this one may be, be sure to involve your parent in the decision-making process. Talk to them about their preferences and what they are looking for in an assisted living facility. Ask them what their concerns and fears are and try to address them as best as you can. If possible, take your parent to visit different facilities so that they can see for themselves what each one has to offer. This can help them feel more comfortable with the idea of moving.

If your parent is hesitant about the idea of moving, it may be helpful to involve other family members or a trusted friend in the conversation. Having someone else who can support and reinforce the benefits of an assisted living facility can help to alleviate some of the stress and tension associated with this decision.

Finally, it's important to understand that this decision may take time. Your parent may need some time to come to terms with the idea of moving out of their home. Be patient, understanding, and supportive throughout the process. Remember that this decision is ultimately about your parent's safety and well-being, and that your love and concern are the driving force behind this decision.

Talking to your parent about moving into an assisted living facility can be a difficult and emotional decision. However, by starting the conversation with empathy and understanding, focusing on the benefits of assisted living facilities, involving your parent in the decision-making process, and being patient and supportive, you can help make this transition as smooth and stress-free as possible.

Remember that this decision is ultimately about your parent's overall well-being, and that your love and concern are the driving force behind this decision.

Should you create an online will or use an attorney?

If you're weighing the pros and cons of doing it online versus going through an attorney, let us break it down.
Take the quiz!
Breena Fain
Breena Fain

Breena is a writer, certified death doula, and co-founder at Addio based in San Francisco. She leads Addio's content efforts and helps families navigate their end-of-life plan. In her free time, you can find her at the piano, on the beach with her dog, eating her weight in sourdough bread, and volunteering at a local SF hospice facility. (She's also who runs all our social media accounts so be sure to say hello!)

Learn more about the Addio team

Schedule a chat with us.

Every customer gets a complimentary call with one of our Family Guides.

More from Addio

The importance of a personal legacy letter in your estate plan
When you think of estate planning, you may immediately think of wills, trusts, and other legal documents that ensure your assets are distributed according to your wishes after you pass away. While these documents are certainly important, there's another aspect of estate planning that is often overlooked: the personal legacy letter.
Read More
The role of life insurance in estate planning
Estate planning is a critical part of ensuring that your assets are distributed according to your wishes after you pass away. Let's explore the role of life insurance in estate planning and why it's an important consideration for anyone who wants to protect their family's financial future.
Read More
What happens to your digital assets after you pass away? A guide to digital estate planning
In this article, we'll explore what digital estate planning is, why it's important, and what steps you can take to ensure that your digital assets are handled properly after you pass away.
Read More

Should you create an online will or use an attorney?

If you're weighing the pros and cons of doing it online versus going through an attorney, let us break it down.

Take the quiz